hmmm… its been awhile since i last blogged. well as usual been very busy with all sorts of stuffs ( i wonder when will it end ) . anyway, few days ago a friend of mine whos a very loooong lost friend contact me. She is my high school buddy, a real buddy. She went to the US after our graduation and we’ve lost in touch. We had a little chit chat and i am so happy for her coz right now, she is married with errr 3 kids . And i was shocked when i found out how she met her hubby. She met her better half in World of Warcraft. Yes! the game! i didnt even know that shes a gamer type coz she totally hated our computer subjects way back then. I was so curious on how did they started and she told me that it all started in a casual freakin in-game non sense relationship . Then it lead to a long distance relationship and blah blah blah.

At first, i thought long distance relationship doesn’t work at all. It’s like why settle for this kind of relationship when you can have a better one? Do not mistake love for hunger for affection, or loneliness, or even lust. You may think it is love, but it often is not. But yea, when i heard Katie’s story… to me it seems very challenging and difficult but not impossible at all.

Long Distance Relationships share the same facts as an average relationship. It involves two people who share an interest in each other’s lives, care for one another and of course have a love for each other that they hope will only continue to grow. On the other hand, a long distance relationship does have its differences as well. It takes away your ability to see each other on a frequent note, as well as the choice of being intimate whenever you desire, not to mention that there would be major trust required. Being unable to spend time together in a physical presence makes it harder to hang on to, but does not spell out doom for your relationship.

The first step is to make an agreement of what your expectations are in the relationship and how much of a commitment you are willing to give and receive. If the two of you decide to be monogamous, then it is clear that neither of you will be dating anyone else as long as your romantic relationship exists. Being clear about what you both want is extremely important, especially in a long distance relationship, in order to prevent future misunderstandings and mistakes. Do not feel afraid to tell your partner what you really need and want from him or her, you deserve the chance to speak from your heart and he or she deserves to know the truth and judge whether they can give it to you.

Trust is a major necessity if you wish to have your relationship from a distance. Without trust and honesty, the relationship is in for danger and unsuccessfulness, just as it would be any other relationship. By accepting the challenge of a long distance relationship, you also accepted the fact that you will have to have the trust and faith that your partner will not be seeing anyone else as promised. Being paranoid and accusing will only grow doubts, insecurity and tension between you and none of those three will help the relationship survive successfully.

Keeping each other informed of the friendships you have with other people and the events that take place in your personal life is a great way to keep your relationship alive and healthy; and continues to make your partner a part of your life. It is essential that you receive the same information from your partner as well, so you both feel the same security and satisfaction that you both crave.

Yeah, it challenging, difficult and yet its fun? i guess? Impossible? Nah!